I Don’t Have Time For A “Side Hustle” – I Have Kids! (Episode 120)
Maybe you’ve dreamed of building your own business or starting a “side hustle”. You have this vision, yet…you’re a parent of young children. It’s hard enough to find time to go to the bathroom on your own, much less launch a business! How do you make it work when you’re overwhelmed and busy all the time?
This week, we launch into not just entrepreneurship, but what this means for families, especially those with young children.
What is a "Side Hustle"?
Sometimes this evolves into a huge business, or a full-time job. Yet oftentimes it is more of a side hustle than anything. And we can share how to make this side hustle work.
First, let’s go back to what a side hustle actually is: A side hustle is any type of employment undertaken in addition to one's full-time job. A side hustle is generally freelance or piecework in nature, providing a supplemental income. ... A side hustle is not the same as a part-time job. *
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My father Dan Miller, author of 48 Days To the Work You Love, is going to share with you a proven formula to start your side business while you’re working full-time with just 15 hours per week. He’ll show you where to allocate those 15 hours to get the maximum return on your investment so you’ll be making $4800 a month on your new side business after the first six months.
He has example after example of entrepreneurs who have done just that — some even training themselves for a new field; others being able to meet and surpass their income as an attorney so they could quit a job they didn’t enjoy; and still others who have build very profitable business and kept their full-time jobs because the 15 hour per week formula can work long-term.
Reserve your spot now to find out how.
Tiny Dictators and Curve Balls
It can be great - in theory - to imagine developing that dream into a reality and creating a side hustle or even a full time business launched by you. Honestly, this even applies for those of you simply working from home, no matter what job you're doing.
Life throws us curve balls all the time. Yet when you're juggling parenting on top of business-building, it can be especially trying. You're both the day care and the business at the same time, and it can be pretty overwhelming to manage. To put it simply, working from home is so over-rated.
However. It IS possible. And you CAN make it something that works for both you and your family. But it takes intention, scheduling, and clear boundaries.
Distinguishing Between Work and Play
My father's favorite quote has always been:
“The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his information and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him he's always doing both."
― James A. Michener
In my world with such an entrepreneurial family, work and play was always blended.
Nathan, however, grew up very differently in a traditional model with public schools and government jobs for his parents. For them, once you clocked out, you were done. It was playtime! There was a clear line between work and play.
Well, we learned to meet in the middle. He helped me recover from my go-go-go attitude and tendency toward workaholism, and I helped him see how there was a flow between the two. Drawing some clear boundaries around when was work time and when I needed to put it down was critical for my family, so I wasn't always running away to handle "just one more email." And getting just as intentional about adding in downtime was so, so valuable not only in my wellbeing, but ultimately in my work productivity as well.
Some additional resources for you
- Feeling completely overwhelmed and stressed out?
- Tasks: Tips to Move Past Overwhelm and Make It Flow
- The Burden of Overwhelm – Moving Forward While Always Feeling Behind
- Connecting, Screen-time, Challenges and Overwhelm (Episode 72)
- Victim-Speak: Stop Doing It! - The Ziglar Show
- Mastermind Principles Masterclass
- 5 Books to Read Before the End Of The Year
- 15 Hours a Week Masterclass
- Your Kickstart Guide to Starting an Online Business
- 3 Video Resources: How To Start A Side Business, 15 Hours a Week, And Serving from A Full Cup
- The Ultimate Entrepreneur's Checklist
- 48 Days to the Work You Love Online Seminar
- Join the 48 Days Eagles Community
The Twins and More Analogy
Where do you get the time, and where do you give the time to really focus on what is important? How do you manage your energy so you aren't completely fried?
We compare it to having multiples of children. In the podcast, we share about how my brother has twins, and him trying to juggle just parenting each infant on top of a 2 year old and how they always seemed to be needing something at the same time.
With a business "baby" and a real human baby, both can also throw those "right now" demands of what you need to handle - what fire to put out, what new obstacle to overcome, etc. It can be like a parent juggling multiple children. Work has become another demanding baby.
Our Time - and Our Focus - is spent on what we choose to prioritize.
Yet in this analogy...we so often choose it. We know the energy exchange. We know the deep investment it takes to be a parent, and we decide to embark anyway. We go through the sleepless nights and the ups and downs of figuring out parenting because the reward of seeing these little souls grow and pouring love into them is more powerful and beautiful than anything else in the world. It's trying and exhausting and yet exhilarating and soul-breathing in a way nothing else is.
The Time Exchange
WWe're willing to exchange our time for the beauty of being a parent - even though it's not always easy street. And the same goes for work. When you are creating something, it takes hard work and struggles, and oftentimes failure as well. Yet the feeling of accomplishment and the passion that lights you up as you talk about it - it makes it worth it.
Take an Inventory
We start right here, right now, in this present moment.
Who are you right now, and what do you desire to be?
What is the reality of this time in your life, and how can you create the future you thrive in?
Where are you "leaking"? When is it that you say "I can't do this anymore" or "I'm so overwhelmed."
Have you spent the time to create a "family vision" with your household?
Do your actions reflect your vision for your family?
Are your actions more triage and reaction, running errands and doing "to-dos" and not really creating the space to connect, to rest, and to focus in on performance, goals, and desires?
Do you schedule in time for you - and for your family - just as importantly as a doctor's appointment or client meeting?
Play to Your Strengths
Where do you thrive and you get the most work accomplished? Is it early in the morning, or late at night? Is it alone, or at a coffeeshop with music blaring and the hustle and bustle of people around?
Write out a list of all those things looming over you. Do you really need to do it right now? Is it really necessary?
Do an analysis of your life - what can really be passed on, or passed up?
Don't Get Caught in the "Have To"
Your life is a choice. Is it really a "have to" or a "get to?" Is there something you can let go of, or something you can outsource to someone else? Maybe you do see the value of a worthwhile investment for getting your groceries delivered, your house cleaned, or your bookkeeping handled. Maybe there is a cost, but the time it frees up is so worth it.
Maybe you can barter and exchange free babysitting or yard work with friends. Look for opportunities to help one another out when money is tight as well.
Swap Time For Time
What comes easy to you that you can help another on, and hand off something that bogs you down?
Take turns to support your partner to create space and down time. Take the word "busy" out of your vocabulary - it's a choice, and it doesn't have to become your mantra.
Your Weekly Challenge:
Do an inventory of your life and what things bog you down. Look at your week and your to-dos and see what it truly necessary. Start focusing in on one thing at a time.
And when you're focused on work, do it whole-heartedly. When it's time for family, set work aside and be present.
There are no rollover minutes in life - you can fill every second with tasks and reactions, and miss the impact of fostering the relationships that will leave a legacy beyond your years. Be wise with your time, and get intentional with it.
I am passionate that each of us has our own unique strengths that are important to share. You are powerful beyond measure. You make an impact. And so does everyone else in your family. The more you can understand that, know how to interconnect, and have grace, the more your family will thrive. Because ultimately, the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us.
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