On Boundaries: Your Children Are Not The Center Of The Universe!
Ah, children. They believe the world revolves around them. Think about it – it only makes sense, when they are just discovering the world! It’s okay that children believe they are the center of the universe, because they are brand new to it. But eventually, that grace fades and you end up with these tiny demanding dictators who are taking over everything. Time and time again I hear from parents who feel they are slaves to their children – bedtime battles, food battles, everything is met with protest.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. The key is not to just lay down the law in an authoritarian way, but to clearly communicate not only the “what” is going to happen, but the “why”. And consistency is key!
- Clearly communicate what is going to happen. (We have done all our before bedtime things. Now I’m going to read you a book, give you your goodnight kiss, and it’s time for bed – no more getting up.)
- Explain the “why” behind it. (It’s important for your body to rest so you don’t get sick and you are ready to play tomorrow. And now is time for Mommy and Daddy to talk and connect so we are refreshed and ready to be there for you in the morning!)
- Consistency is key. (Stay strong in your decision. You can give them love and support, but if you are not confident and waffle, it’s game over. Repeat, repeat, repeat.)
Your children are looking for you to know the way – you can always hear them out, but then make a decision, have a clear why, and follow through with it. There is freedom in knowing your limits and knowing where the boundaries are. Check out my podcast this week, and my previous post on Bathtub Boundaries With An Ocean Of Love for even more insights on this topic.
Share below – what boundaries have you set in your home?