This is the fourth in the “Be The Good, See the Good” Series.
We will dive in to how the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us, and learn how we can work in our strengths and recognize that in others.
*Podcast music by the awesome Renee & Jeremy who cover “Put a Little Love In Your Heart” by Jackie DeShannon. Props to both of them for this beautiful rendition that epitomizes what I want for families! You can get your copy here (aff link)
Ashley featured on the Entrepreneur On Fire Podcast: https://www.eofire.com/podcast/ashleylogsdon/
Check out www.HollyScherer.com – she says “I created this community to help you REDISCOVER YOUR DREAMS and BUILD THE FOUNDATION to make them a reality. In 2011, my husband and I STOPPED WAITING FOR “SOMEDAY” and began building a FOUNDATION TO FREEDOM – we want to help you do the same.” How cool is that?
“When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But when you LISTEN, you may learn something new.” -Dalhai Llama
Greatest fear for a high I is rejection. Solitude, however, does not mean pure isolation. It’s a time to connect with yourself and find peace in the quiet. The more we can establish that being alone is not a negative thing, the more a high I will have confidence in that space.
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Jim Rohn
To show love/affirmation for a high S or I, it goes back to the feeling and relationship. For a D or C, boil it down to the task and their accomplishment.
The brain physiology and DISC correlation relates back to Katherine Benziger’s work – a great summary of it all is here: http://www.businessballs.com/benzigerpersonalityassessment.htm D & I = Frontal L/R, S & C = Basal L/R
It takes 3 seconds for a high D and I to process things, it takes 7 seconds for an S or C.
I know you want to see a picture of Ellie’s “Sharpie Incident” – read the blog post here: http://www.mamasaysnamaste.com/high-i-style/
Characteristics of a High I Personality Style:
- Friend to many
- Life of the Party
- High Energy
- Warm and Approachable
- Compulsive Talker
- Class clown
- Daydreamer/can be unfocused
- Easily multitasks
- Great team player
- Not great at details
- At times, may not finish work
- Easily distracted
What Motivates Them:
- feeling like they are a part of something
- allowing them space to entertain
- giving them your full attention
What upsets them:
- feeling isolated
- not being able to talk or express themselves; feeling stifled
Parenting Tips to Help Your Child (or you) Grow:
- Help them be aware of their surroundings
- Teach them to work independently
- Help them see the details
- Teach them the benefits of planning ahead
- Encourage improved listening skills
- Structure some things – try bookending your day so it doesn’t get away from you and get too chaotic
- Allow for variety and changing interests
- Let them entertain, and don’t hold back on laughter in fun and love
Encouraging Phrases for a high I:
- I like that you know how to have fun
- You make people feel good being around you
- Your enthusiasm is great!
- I like that you always see the bright side in life!
- You’re fun to be with
- Keep that light within you shining – it glows on others and spreads the love!
- I love your creativity and excitement.
? Help your I child become more organized by teaching him how to effectively use charts or a chore list
? Help your I child to understand when to say no to friends and when it is important to be an individual. This is an important lesson for all styles, but requires a special emphasis for I children due to their natural need to be a part of a group.
? When your I child needs to do a task (like homework), make sure you set aside time beforehand for them to have some fun and get their wiggles out.
? If an I child misbehaves, the cold shoulder is just…cold. This feels like complete rejection to them. Instead, tell them what they did wrong, why it was wrong, and what the consequence will be. Alone time can be a teaching tool that isn’t just shunning them – but helping them to sit with their thoughts without the distractions of friends, and really comprehend what they did. Always allow them to right their wrongs, so they feel fully back in good graces, and reassure them that you love them and know they will make a better choice next time!
Want to see a high I yogi in action? I love “Yoga with Adrienne” and she is a great example of a fun-loving high I. Check out this beginner yoga video for back pain – and notice how her personality shines through: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=phuS5VLQy8c