It’s the end of the world…as we know it (Episode 138)
Like everyone else, it’s hard to go on with times being “as normal” when we are in the midst of a global pandemic. My hope is that you listen to this podcast and pay attention to these posted links below to help you – and your family – get through this time together.
The COVID-19 Pandemic is here. How are you processing it? Is this a time of fear and worry, or can this open the door to something even more beautiful? How about some coronavirus hope...that may have the same ripple effect?
Okay, it may seem like this is all blowing sunshine in a harsh reality...but recognize this. This pandemic is a very real and tangible way to recognize our impact - and our ripple effect - that goes way beyond what we may see ourselves.
In a time of worry, stress and uncertainty, I want to spread hope, love and light just as intensely as this virus has spread.
Where are we this week?
We are currently sitting out this quarantine time, ironically, in the one place Nathan said he’d go if anything ever went down. Although it just happened to line up like this, we just so happen to be in the same place as Nathan’s family lake-house – the place he knows so well and grew up around. We are enjoying our together time and staying isolated until we can assure we can go back to grandparents bringing only love and healthy grandchildren.
Follow us on our journey on Insta as the FieldTripGypsies!
The Reality of it
Like it or not, our country, like so many others, is being very clear on what needs to happen to contain this virus and get a handle on how to navigate it. This means families are trying to figure out how to bring work and school into, oftentimes, an already chaotic home life.
- Maybe right now isn’t the most important time to be super productive – with school, work, or anything else. Maybe this IS a time of rest and recovery for you, or a time to lay off the pressure of a school agenda with your children and focus, instead, on building – or rebuilding – relationships in your home.
- Teach your family life skills. How to do laundry, how to cook, changing a car tire…these are also valuable, and this time together can be the most productive times of growth.
- Flexibility and fluidity is important. This isn't just about ensuring your child gets an A when they get back to school. This is an opportunity to focus on something way more important - the relationships under your own roof.
- If your time was normally pretty scheduled, it can help to do that at home and time-block accordingly. Let them know what to expect at home.
- Do movie nights, game nights, play in your yard. Write letters and practice those snail mail skills to send out a batch in a few weeks.
- This is a great time to look back at your family mission statement, or choose right now to create one – how are you working to grow closer as a family, and build emotional resilience in your children?
- Talk with your kids. Explain to them what's going on, and how this is an example of global impact - and how we, as individuals, make an impact in our world. They are looking to you for their emotional resilience. Let me repeat that:
Your children are looking to you
for how to build their emotional resilience.
There is hope
Here is my friend Melissa:
“Why don't we do this? Why did we do that? Why is this place closed, but not that one? Why? Because we don't have the answers. WE. DON'T KNOW. HOW. TO. DO. THIS. All we know is how all the other places did it, and for many, how they did it, DIDN'T WORK. So we're trying to do everything we can to learn from their experiences. Our governing bodies and medical experts are learning as quickly as they can. They're HUMAN BEINGS that have very few certainties at this moment. They're doing the best they can. They're making recommendations that will hopefully save thousands of lives.
Even if it only saves one life, perhaps it's worth it. Perhaps that one life will be my mother's, my son's, my husband's. Perhaps it will be mine. Perhaps it will be yours.
It's understandable that we're frustrated, confused, disappointed. Who wouldn't be? But, in adversity and challenge there is growth. There is knowledge. And right now, there may even be safety. Feel your anger. Then let it go. Shed a tear for whatever much anticipated event you're missing out on. Then think ahead to how you'll celebrate in a different way when all of this is a memory. Pledge to spend money at local businesses however you can (THEY are the one's who may not recover). Pledge to carry on and return to your life as soon as the "walls" come down. Make an attempt to share something positive. Embrace all the funny memes you can. Share laughter, not conspiracy. Be a light in this world. Be a beacon of resiliency. Stay healthy, my friends.”
Not thinking this is that serious?
This is not to spread fear, but some perspective. Read these and understand the rationale for social distancing.
- This is hands-down the most intense, so please only read if you are already prepared with emotional resilience. No amount of stress or worry will help. Do your part, and practice true distancing. This isn't about not socializing. This is about physical distance. The article that made our government act (this links to a FB post with a cliff's notes version)
- Track COVID-19 by confirmed cases - the numbers grow by the minutes.
- Notes from the University of California, BioHub Panel from March 10, 2020
- Pediatrician: No Coronavirus Playdates - please - this is not an issue of less than ten people being okay.
- Quarantined Italians record messages for "themselves from 10 days ago" during Coronavirus pandemic - if you really want to be enlightened, there are some very interesting comments as well.
- From Tim Ferris: Predicting hospital capacity – why to act early
- How silent spreaders are fueling the coronavirus pandemic - it's not just you, it's what you left behind.
- How long will the Coronavirus last? I know people are concerned about vaccines and such - here are the scenarios they are playing out
And now...the good news
It's not just doom and gloom. There is hope, and there are some beautiful things coming from this:
"Years ago, anthropologist Margaret Mead was asked by a student what she considered to be the first sign of civilization in a culture. The student expected Mead to talk about fishhooks or clay pots or grinding stones.
But no. Mead said that the first sign of civilization in an ancient culture was a femur (thigh bone) that had been broken and then healed. Mead explained that in the animal kingdom, if you break your leg, you die. You cannot run from danger, get to the river for a drink of water or hunt for food. You are meat for prowling beasts. No animal survives a broken leg long enough for the bone to heal.
A broken femur that has healed is evidence that someone has taken the time to stay with the one who fell, has bound up the wound, has carried the person to safety and has tended the person through recovery. Helping someone through difficulty is where civilization starts, Mead said."
We are at our best when we serve others. Be civilized.
(taken from Ira Byock in his book, The Best Care Possible: A Physicians Quest To Transform Care Through the End Of Life)
And speaking of the end of life...it will come to us all, at least in this body!
And if you’re already there, and you need some good news, pay attention here:
- Good New About the Covid-19 Virus
- Twitter is calling for Christmas In March
- A friend in my hometown has rocked it setting up volunteer runners for the at-risk in East Nashville, a place that just was hit hard by tornados just weeks before! Here is the write-up in the Tennessean
- Here is a growing list of educational resources that are free, discounted or free for a period while people are figuring these things out!
- Here is my own page of educational resources – all kinds of places to explore, as well as podcast episodes, videos and more helping you navigate alternative education.
- As Giuseppe Conte, the Italian prime minister, said this week: “Let’s distance ourselves from each other today so that we can embrace each other more warmly [...] tomorrow.” Don’t forget: disasters and crises bring out the best in people
- The fabulous Marie Forleo has a compilation of all kinds of amazingness to help you right now - from great viral videos to powerful work within - check it out.
- Here is what Covid-19 is doing to pollution levels across the globe
Your Weekly Challenge:
We have a ripple effect. We have an impact. Look at how you are going to stay supported and get positivity during this time. Balance your news feeds with positivity, hope, ideas and ways to keep you motivated.
Join us in our FB groups, ask questions for the podcast, and let me know if you need something more. I'm here for you.
This viral poem has soothed the souls of many during this time, and leave it to Oprah to get to the bottom of the story behind the author!