Dealing With Heavy Emotions (Episode 68)
Dealing with heavy emotions can be hard, yet carrying that weight around can limit our light in so many ways. It’s not just the light we want to shine from within, but the lightness of the load we carry. We can have a beautifully minimalist lifestyle from all outward appearances…yet if we don’t address the clutter of the heart, we can feel like a boulder in a sea of emptiness.
It's not simply about a cleaned out house. When the clutter resides in your heart, the weight can be unbearable. You have to lighten the load within to really feel free.
Clutter of the Heart
"I think that emotional clutter has a lot to do with how much energy we have to spend on handling the things that are coming at us. If we’re carrying a lot of things with us, it already takes a big gulp of energy that we have with us for the day." -NL
Try hugging your feelings…and then letting them go.
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Heavy baggage isn't just literal
A lot of times when we carry around that emotional baggage, it’s that muddy water that prevents us from seeing things clearly. We carry around this excess weight in our hearts that can weigh much more than a literal suitcase.
The more you carry with you…your past becomes your present, and that pain/fear/sadness stays right there with you.
There is power in positive thinking and in seeing the positive good and opportunity in a situation.
6 Tips to Shift Your Perspective
Be Aware of Triggers
Those things we say can cause a trigger in someone else. It may be a pain point they have been unable to process and let go of. It may not be a significant part of your story, but it may be a heavy weight for another.
Oftentimes we will drag pain into a relationship and it will create these taboo areas. Sometimes we hold on to our pain because it’s our reality, our comfort, something that has been a wound we’ve carried for too long so that it’s become a part of us.
When you are decluttering your heart, sometimes you need to allow grace for people on what they hang onto. People need to process through their own pain, and that process looks different for each person. The pain will remain there, however, as long as you choose to walk with it.
Process The Pain
It’s not that you erase the pain. You feel it and process through. And you replace that pain with a new perspective. You see things differently, have a new respect, awareness and empathy for others because of what you personally have gone through.
This allows you to have the clarity to invite healing into your relationship. You may learn that grace, space, support or silence may be what is needed.
We can’t carry every emotion and experience at the same time. Regardless of whether we like it or not, boundaries are always created due to the fact that we simply can’t process everything at once. So if boundaries are created regardless, we get the opportunity to get intentional - to lighten the load of what we carry with us. Emotions flow like water - they keep moving. Life is precious. We can lose it in the blink of an eye.
Take A Step Back and Simply Observe
Take a moment to appreciate simply where you are at the moment. Pay attention to it. Look at what you bring into your life. Does this add value and purpose and joy in your home? In your relationships? With your connection to yourself?
Not a Challenge...
Your invitation for introspection
Give yourself - and your feelings - a hug. Journal it out. Talk it out. Go on a walk on the beach and yell it out. Do whatever you need to do to hug and let go. Let those emotions flow out of you and think about that opportunity to lighten the load. Give grace for others to walk their own path, muddy as it may be. Reach out and connect.
The more we recognize those personality styles and those strengths and what triggers us, the more we can come back to how the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us.