Head Clutter and The Chaos of Overwhelm ⋆ Mama Says Namaste

Head Clutter and The Chaos of Overwhelm

How can you be calm when there is so much clutter in your head? 

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Welcome to Season Three on the Mama Says Namaste Podcast.  In this series, we will focus on how to clear the clutter not just from your home, but also your head and your heart to create that space for clarity and connection.

Join me and dive in to “The Minimalist To-Do List!”

Learn more about our upcoming course and some tips for your own family adventure by going to www.MamaSaysNamaste.com/familyadventure

Educational apps and games we’ve been playing at home:

Have you felt like this?

“This morning I realized that I can no longer recall a time in my adult life that I wasn’t behind on all the things I needed/wanted to do. I don’t remember getting to a point where I felt like I had caught up and could safely do nothing. Even if I get caught up on the immediate needs like housework or work goals, there are always self-improvement or home-improvement projects, things I’ve been wanting to do with my family, career related study, etc. Every day it feels like I wake up behind in the race.

That’s not to say I’m always doing something productive. But at the times I’m doing nothing productive, I’m choosing to do nothing over doing something, whether it’s because I’m exhausted or unmotivated or whatever. But I always have to actively decide to be unproductive over all the things I “should” be doing, and that usually comes with guilt.

This is not healthy. Anybody have any books or talks or tips on how to change this mindset?”

Of course, immediately he started getting responses.   These were not solutions, however, but affirmations that this was not just him, but so many of us that feel the same way.  

It’s the allowing that is the flow of the river…and that’s how you get cruising.

“I would love to flow like the river flows, carried by the surprise of its own unfolding.” John O’Donahue

So many to-dos and tasks, even if your home is clear of clutter, you can’t relax for the busyness in your head. But oh...you can. And here is how.

We have multiple areas of our lives that have to be assessed:

• Work/Finance

• Family

• Emotional/Spiritual

• Personal Development

• Physical

• Social

• Life Tasks

Those “life tasks” at the end are all of the housekeeping to-dos, repairs, errands, day-to-day life requirements that eat up a ton of time and energy.  Everyone dreams of a personal assistant because this one area alone could easily eat up your whole day, every day.

So how do we keep from just having that feeling of overwhelm all the time?

Six Tips to Eliminate Overwhelm

Here are the biggies for me, to ensure you don’t feel behind all the time.

1: Prioritize

Recommended Read: The One Thing by Gary Keller  (http://amzn.to/2xrsRSt)

Stop multi-tasking and do one thing with excellence. It’s amazing what you can accomplish with that incredible focus

Create Your Priorities – look at what REALLY has to be done. Sometimes, we create a to-do list of so many things, and then we realize that it may not all be necessary. I’ve stressed out looking at a full day of errands, and the more I break it down, realize that there was only ONE of the many things on my to-do list that really needed to be done that day. Breaking it down into bite-size pieces and asking myself, “is it necessary at this moment?” Really helped.   

2: Obliterate Obligation

Okay, there is a time and place for obligation.  Sometimes going out of your way for someone you love is worth it to see the happiness on their face, even if it’s not your favorite thing.  Some obligation is okay.  But when obligation takes over, you can twist down into a spiral of people-pleasing that is a bottomless pit.  If you start to notice that everything you do all day is based on making someone else happy, it’s time to seriously check yourself.  You are not in charge of anyone else’s happiness – that is their’s to own.  Spread love, fill some buckets, but ensure you are looking at what is critical for you to move forward beyond just meeting everyone else’s needs.  My mother swears by the book “When Pleasing Others is Hurting You” (http://amzn.to/2xyfzJ2)So many to-dos and tasks, even if your home is clear of clutter, you can’t relax for the busyness in your head. But oh...you can. And here is how.

3: Underpromise, Overdeliver

Be careful what you commit to, and ensure you can really follow through.  If you can’t show up on time, don’t say you can.  Don’t accept a project if your plate is already full.  Don’t commit to a deadline that is going to require you to forfeit eating and sleeping to meet it.  

“I have a commitment”.  Don’t feel pressure to respond immediately – say “let me check my schedule and get back with you” so you aren’t making a decision under pressure. 

It’s okay to say no – provide another resource so it’s not just no, but you offer a solution.

4: Wiggle Room

Allow for wiggle room.  Don’t overcommit your day so there is no down time.  We all need rest and we need time to create, process, and think.  Don’t jam pack your day where it’s a marathon.  That is a sure-fire way to create burnout.  Don’t live for that one day when you can rest again.  Intentionally allow that down time every day so you aren’t running on fumes.

On that whole “productive” concept.  Let me get one thing straight: Rest IS productive.  

Don’t negate your down time. It’s critical to your health, both mentally and physically.  Give yourself grace to veg.  

Recommended Read: Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert (http://amzn.to/2yy1Lhx)   Give your creativity a name and spend time with it.  Invite it into your life, and sit with it every day.

Creating a Haven of Peace: When Your Feeling Down, Finances Are Flat, and Tempers Are Rising by Joanne Miller (http://amzn.to/2xpQyzv) This is Ashley’s family story written by her mother, with great insights in creating that haven of peace in your home. 

5: Timeblock

Schedule the fire out of your day. We’ve found flex time during the middle of the day is fine, but the morning and the evening have such a huge impact on how our days can get away from us.

Do you want to be a human “being” or a human “doing”?

Recommended Read: The Power of Full Engagement by Jim Loehr.  This is such an incredible book to ensure you are really performing at your peak by being fully present in what you are doing at that moment.

The bane of many entrepreneurs is our ability to work anytime we want…which means we are always working and doing “just one more thing.” Those “just one more things”: checking facebook, answering another email, doing one more edit, etc are all areas where the day can get away from us. Your “one thing” can take you down a four hour bunny trail.

Schedule your work time, and your play time.  Do these with the same priority level.  My nightly date with Nathan is just as important as my podcast interview.  Don’t negate the importance of life beyond work.  We want to really live, not simply trudge through.  Enjoy this life, and make that a critical component of your day.

6: Bookend Your Day

On that note, bookending our day has been huge. We prep our coffee in the evenings so it’s ready to go. Our family agrees on what we are going to have for breakfast so it’s no shock in the morning.  Nathan and I discuss the night before what we need to accomplish the next morning.

So many to-dos and tasks, even if your home is clear of clutter, you can’t relax for the busyness in your head. But oh...you can. And here is how.

Set your goals based on the feeling behind them, not just the lofty goal.  What is the emotion behind it all?

Recommended Read: The Fire Starter Sessions by Danielle LaPorte (http://amzn.to/2kxSjoi). This book rocked me with the concept of one thing: “What is the feeling behind the goal you set?” This is fabulous in writing or audio, and was a pivotal book in directing my life of travel.

Your Life Is Your Responsibility

Like I’ve written so many times, we are in charge of our lives.  We have the power to create with intention, or live in reaction.  

When we are consistent and stick to a schedule, we find we feel way more in control of our lives – living with intention and not just reacting as life passes us by.

Care for some Q&A?  Hit us with any questions you have, and we’ll send you a personal email response back and may address it on a future podcast!  Simply email Ashley directly at Ashley@MamaSaysNamaste.com

Share below what things help you gather your thoughts, or why you think this won’t work for you.  Let’s dive in!  If you are overwhelmed, the first step is to identify what is overwhelming, and then look for those little things you can do to move forward.  Share your thoughts in the comments below, and I’ll respond to every one.  

 

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Ashley Logsdon is a Family and Personality Styles Coach and Lifelong Learner. She and her husband Nathan are RVing the States and unschooling their 3 girls. Her mission is to shift the mindsets of families from reaction to intention, and guide them in creating the family they love coming home to. Looking deeper than the surface, we assess the strengths, triggers, and simplifying your lifestyle so you truly recognize how the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us. Join the Mama Says Namaste Facebook Group

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