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5 Mindset Shifts To Become Your Best Self

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This is a guest post by Rebecca Brown. Rebecca is a translator by day, and a traveler mostly at night. She is an expert on living with jet lag – and packing in tiny suitcases. You can read more of her exploits at RoughDraft and on Twitter

Best Self first, Parenting, Second

Becoming a parent challenges everything you ever thought you knew in your life and about life. You start to consider things you didn’t know were possible or weren’t a part of your day-to-day routine and you want to become better. You feel like it’s finally time to grow up and become a role model. It should be easy, you should be able to just brush off that younger version of yourself and step into your new, big parent trousers, but sometimes it doesn’t just happen.

If you ask any parent, they all want to be their best selves. They all want to be the best role model for their kids but not all of them know how to shift certain aspects of their lives, their mentalities, that will get them where they want to be. And it’s ok to not know how to do it alone because parenting is about coming together and figuring things out along the way.

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It Takes a Village...

It takes a village…

How you can shift your mindset to become your best self 101:

#1: Take A Step Back

Sometimes, the best solution is to take a step back. Look at the bigger picture. Really think about your actions, where you’re at and where you’d like to be.

To become a good parent, I believe one needs to remember where we come from, remember our young days and realize that we have grown up a lot. I also like to reflect on what things I needed as a kid, what I wished I had from my parents…

This also helps me put into perspective the things I’m doing nowadays and how I can improve.

#2: Accept It Won't Always Be Perfect

It is something some of us struggle with - this idea of being the best parent and, am I doing it right? Especially nowadays with social media judging every single move, parents are questioning themselves a lot.

Should I give this to my baby, can I let him play outside, should I be ok with that…?

Just so much pressure from everyone and everywhere! So, take this as your gentle reminder that it won’t always be perfect. You will doubt yourself and your choices and you’ll want to compare, but that’s the thing, you’re already trying!

To me, the fact that you are willing to do some trial and error but still keep trying says a whole lot about you and your mindset than what bottle you should be buying. It won’t be perfect, but you’ll keep trying your best.

#3: Ask For Help

Yes, we can ask for help and we should! No one is born knowing how to parent; you learn it!

And yes, it does take a village, so use it to your full advantage. Ask questions to other parents, friends, even your parents! Ask questions at the store, to the doctor, the nurses, the kindergarten teacher, just ask questions.

When you accept that it’s ok to not know it all, you’ll learn a lot more.

#4: "You" Time

To become a better version of ourselves, we need time to make a change. Having “me” time is not being selfish and should, in fact, be part of your routine.

Make sure you allocate some time every day, week, every month (whatever you feel is right and works with your schedule) to take some time to just relax. It could be a five minute meditation or short walk. And maybe, you can actually get a full day just for yourself. Get your nails done, your hair cut, book in a massage, anything that will take you away from parenting time to “you”, individual time.

You want to be better for your kids, so start treating yourself better.

#5: Read A Book

Not any book, but a book that will guide you through this time in your life. If you really hate reading longer texts than this article, well, listen to a podcast or an audio book.

What’s important is that you’re listening to other people’s opinions and perspectives. For one to grow and expand, one needs to immerse into different lives.

By hearing what others have to say about parenthood, about changing yourself and your mind, you might realize things about yourself you didn’t know before. You might end up discovering you had it in you all along and you just needed a little push to see it.

Gain Some Perspective

And let’s not forget one very important thing - just listen to your children. Ask them the questions and really pay attention to what they have to say.

Sometimes we’re too self-critical and, in our children’s eyes, we’re the best! Listen to how they feel, what they need from you, and I can promise you you’ll be there to give it all to them.

You’ll become your best self by paying attention to the ones who truly know what they need.

“I came to parenting the way most of us do — knowing nothing and trying to learn everything.” — Mayim Bialik

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About the author, Ashley Logsdon


Ashley Logsdon is a Family and Personality Styles Coach and Lifelong Learner. She and her husband Nathan are RVing the States and unschooling their 3 girls. Her mission is to shift the mindsets of families from reaction to intention, and guide them in creating the family they love coming home to. Looking deeper than the surface, we assess the strengths, triggers, and simplifying your lifestyle so you truly recognize how the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us.

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  1. Hey Brandi, so glad you’re listening in! Hmmm – books to help you and your children…I’ve read such a variety for different ages – with what you’re talking about here, I’d look at some books to read with him about empathy and learning how to navigate different emotions. Helping him to understand appropriate responses and how he makes an impact on others. A book you may want to check out is “How To Talk So Little Kids Will Listen” (

    I’d also start looking at what type of behavior he is having that’s obnoxious and where the root is. For example, if it’s yelling, and you constantly have music or TV playing in the background, you could look at some shifts in your environment that may impact it. Or, if you start noticing he’s extra obnoxious/aggressive after a certain show, or amount of time in front of a screen, you can again, get more to the root of what’s contributing to the behavior.

    I definitely work 1-1 with families to help them navigate specific steps that will work in line with their family lifestyle, so if you want some in-depth support, feel free to reach out to me directly on the contact page, or check out my coaching packages – I have custom packages as well to fit your family and budget. 🙂

    Thanks again for commenting and for listening to the podcast!

  2. I’m a new listener to your podcast and absolutely love it! What books do you recommend? I have a 3yr old girl and a 6yr old boy. I feel like I’m always in the middle of chaos. I struggle with maintaining my sons wild spirit. He is constantly laughing if he gets in trouble and always has obnoxious behavior. I just want it to calm down a little. Please help.

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