by Ashley Logsdon

Be Consistent….with what?

March 2, 2016 | Blog, connection, family

I’m spontaneous. Maybe even more than that, I’m random. I am not an excellent manager of time, much to my husband’s chagrin.  I love to accomplish things, I care about the end result, but when it comes to actually being consistent with routines or being precise on time, I tend to let things slide.

The saying in our house is simply “pura vida.” Let it go.  We live the rich life.  We live a pure life of love, happiness, and the ability to do whatever the hell we want.  Seriously – what’s so bad about it?  Why do we adhere to strict schedules and guidelines?  Why don’t we simply allow ourselves to be – to simply be?

Tweet: These precious moments of pura vida -they take precedence over any agenda. @namastemamarose

I am consistent with:

  • giving hugs and kisses to my children and my husband every time I leave them or come back to them.
  • telling my family I love them.  Every. Single. Day. (and ending every phone call with that as well)
  • sit-down meals together – typically three meals, but even on crazy days, we have at least one.
  • “Talkie Time” with each child individually every night – even if it’s just a few minutes, we each take time to focus on a little 1-1 with each child.
  • Our special kiss ends every bedtime routine. (which sometimes may be crazy, but it ends with that kiss)
  • one-on-one time with my husband.  Daily check-ins.
  • allowing my children to have a voice and express their opinions.  Making them feel heard.
  • cappuccinos (I may have switched to half-caff and almond creamer, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be fun!) every morning (THIS is the essential piece to make your cuppa joe go from basic to indulgence).
  • Rinsing off the day in a shower or bath, so my bed remains the sacred spot of rest, love, and refreshed energy.
  • Hot Yoga at least twice a week.

My schedule with kiddos is fairly consistent, even though you may not see the structure.  We have rules and guidelines to be aware and present in our home.

I’m just not structured by events or status quo.  I don’t send my kids to traditional school, we don’t work 9-5 jobs, we don’t go to church or follow one specific child-rearing philosophy.  With unschooling, we don’t have a curriculum.  Our spirituality doesn’t fit into one religion; simply seeing divinity in everything prohibits us from boxing it in.  I’m an opportunist to a fault, I guess, and my astrological sign of Gemini would say I always see two sides to any issues.  Because of this, I don’t tend to crack down on there only being one specific way to do things.

My schedule changes, our routines change, but the consistency in love and relationships keeps us steady regardless.  Pura vida – the pure life.  There are many things that are out of our control.  Schedule is within my control.  But…I want to choose that which keeps our family thriving in the most important thing – positive connections with each other, themselves, and this beautiful Universe.  I will shift any schedule to allow the time to bask in the blissful moments of true connection.

What are you consistent in that really matters most?

About the author, Ashley Logsdon


Ashley Logsdon is a Family and Personality Styles Coach and Lifelong Learner. She and her husband Nathan are RVing the States and unschooling their 3 girls. Her mission is to shift the mindsets of families from reaction to intention, and guide them in creating the family they love coming home to. Looking deeper than the surface, we assess the strengths, triggers, and simplifying your lifestyle so you truly recognize how the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us.

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  1. Love it – thanks Kerstin! The 1-1 time with the kids is so valuable – it has made a huge impact on our family and is something the girls look forward to every night. It’s a hoot letting them lead the conversation and seeing where they go with it. And other times, we like to ask leading questions like “what feelings did you feel today?” Or “How did you fill someone’s bucket today?” Those always prompt some great conversations! You guys are definitely not alone – and that is where internet can help and not isolate – it reminds us how big the world is and how there are so many others who may be experiencing the same things you are! Pura Vida a tú tambien!!

  2. Pura vida is the way to go! It’s all about being spontaneous and enjoying each moment to its fullest. Guidelines and rules only restrain us and stop us from being all that we can be. Each moment and each day is and can be unique so there is no point in putting limitations on it. For now we’re not consistent in anything at all really. We do really try to follow some kind of bedtime routine with our two older children and make sure that they also get some one on one time every night. Once again your post makes us feel like we’re not alone in a world that’s robotic and full of restrictions. Pura vida!

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