7 Seconds Will Change Your Communication and Connection (Episode 62)
We are going to dive into who we are - understanding your own personality style and those of your families. If you have two Ds in the family, what are some tips for helping them lead the way...and not taking over? We're going to explore those high-energy styles of the D and I personality style - and how to navigate these types in your family. There is a powerful secret to connection, just by allowing 7 seconds into your conversation...
In this episode, we discuss the high-energy styles of the D and I personalities in your home
Yes, 7 Seconds is THIS powerful
We are going to dive into who we are - understanding your own personality style and those of your families. If you have two Ds in the family, what are some tips for helping them lead the way...and not taking over? We're going to explore those high-energy styles of the D and I personality style - and how to navigate these types in your family. And the biggie, how a simple 7 seconds can completely change your communication and connection.
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We are hanging back at Henry's Lake State Park, right outside of West Yellowstone. It's gorgeous, and we're gearing up for our week at Yellowstone! Just don't watch this when your husband is a mountain biker...(I was going to link to mountain biker runs from bear...but then dug deeper and fact-checked. While that one may have been fake, the footage at the bottom of the article here is completely legit...and the smart response).
Let's go back to what Namaste means - it's recognizing the beauty, the light, the peace within your soul, and then seeing that similar reflection in others. It's recognizing your strengths and those skills you bring to the table, and acknowledging and respecting the strengths you see in another. Namaste’s literal translation in Sanskrit is "Nama" (to bow), "As" (I), and "Te" (you).
“the peace, light and love within my soul recognizes the
peace, light and love within yours.”
There are many personality tests out there - Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, StrengthsFinders...I focus on DISC with Mama Says Namaste because of its simplicity. I can relate them to animals, and make it easy for a five-year-old to understand.
Quick history - DISC resulted from William Marston's book, "The Emotions of Normal People" in the 1920s. Before that we looked at the earth elements (air, water, fire, earth) and then the physical properties in our bodies with Hippocrates (red, yellow, black and white bile) - but William was the first to really look at the behavioral approach and tendencies.
Get intentional about using tools to foster self-awareness in your family
There is no one thing - especially an online assessment - that will be the end-all-be-all answer. But you can take the insights in there - how to communicate with others and your key strengths and triggers to motivate and DEmotivate - this is why you would do it. Utilizing a simple online test is a "cheat sheet" to dig below the surface and really understand the deeper aspects of how we tick.
High D Personality Style
High Ds are like lions or eagles - seen as leaders, visionaries, competitive, loves achievement...Ds can have a hard time saying they're sorry.
Give Ds a challenge for themselves that isn't against others. Give them a challenge to let someone else win or have the upper hand. Give them challenges to better themselves by adding in that teamwork and humility.
We all will approach things differently - that's the beauty of humanity. The uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us. It helps our children to have a better understanding of why people act the way they do, whether it's the pushy kid on the playground, or the kid who is always the comedian.
Sometimes we can lose sight of the person for the task - Ds are task-focused, and need to keep in mind that no task or thing is as important as the person or relationship.
High I personality Style
High Is - related to an otter or peacock. Playful, outgoing, life of the party, engaging, class clown...they light up when they are the center of attention. Sometimes this high energy dynamic is the one that gets shut down, stifled or labeled as simply hyperactive. Don't squash the energy; help them direct it in a positive way.
When you are talking with someone, count to 7 before you talk again - those 7 seconds allows every personality style to gather their thoughts and be able to engage.
This may be the space to allow for a powerful conversations you may have never had.
7 Seconds. You can do it.
Count to 7. This is so huge. Ds and Is may be "ready, fire, aim." Ss and Cs (which we'll cover next week) tend to process through a bit longer before they react. If you step back and count to 7 - this allows for everyone to catch up and determine what their response will be. It allows for more communication and engagement, as everyone gets up to speed. This is such an easy tool to bring awareness - even for kids. Help them learn to pull back and allow for true communication and connection.
Your Weekly Challenge:
For the Ds and Is in your life...think about what approach resonates. Get to the end result with a D - speak with the end in mind so they know the bottom line. For an I, give space for others - count to seven, and allow space for a conversation you may never have had before.
The more we recognize those personality styles and those strengths and what triggers us, the more we can come back to how the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us.