What will it take to make you step up and do something about it? (Episode 77)
Are you feeling stuck in negativity and complacency? Are you hitting a wall and not seeing any hope? This is the episode for you. There are times that require a bit MORE than a course correction. It may be time for a serious shift and redirect. And that’s what this episode is all about.
In this episode, we talk about how marriage is a choice. not simply to perform the ceremony, but a choice to love, every. Single. Day.
Understanding your Personality
First, addressing personality styles - there are beautiful strengths in every personality style. When it comes to me, I’m a high D/I. I hate feeling stuck, and am immediately looking for how to fix it. Like my father says, "It's not a 'problem.' It's an 'opportunity for a solution.'"
I’m highly driven and want to get to the end result. When we start dreaming, I’m immediately looking at implementation - what is our action step to move forward?
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For Nathan, as an S personality style, he wants to ease into things and process for a while. Feeling pressured or rushed is a quick way to shut him down. It’s good to enjoy comfort and security, so this isn’t a negative statement. Yet there comes a time when you have to stop with the whining, complaining and discontent in life and make a decision on whether you're going to stay there.
Where are we this week?
Last week was a rough one, as the kids went downhill with winter colds, and Juliet escalated to three days of 104 fevers and earaches. We had to forgo trick-or-treating and cancel some road trip plans, but she bounced back and is her old self again, and her sisters were super thoughtful in sharing their candy with her.
It’s amazing how much we’ve shifted from candy obsession to just having a little that is already cleaned out - they were quick to say no to half the stuff they know just makes them feel bad, and enjoyed a little feast of candy, spending more time having fun with simply dressing up.
Also, this weekend we did some fun renovations in our tiny home! Hop over to my saved Insta Story on FieldTripGypsies to see the full update!
It's okay to process the pain...
There is some function of talking through our pains - to process and verbally analyze our options before shooting in the dark. It’s important, though to recognize when you get dangerous with it - getting so stuck in comfort or details that we can’t move past it.
Be honest with your weaknesses and your strengths. It’s one thing to recognize them, it’s another to really identify them in live action.
Be careful about getting stuck in a rut, competing with others on who has the most misery. Negativity can breed more negativity, and it can be a slippery slope to get out of.
If you haven't earned the right to push someone to act,
be careful not to simply push them away.
What is your "one day" syndrome?
We can get stuck in the "one day" syndrome, and we've talked about this so often on the podcast!
Feeling stuck goes beyond just dreaming of an adventure - and your patience level and hope will vary, oftentimes based on your personality style.
- Bucket list dreams - These are those things you really hope will happen..."one day", yet if you don't put a date on it, they typically don't!
- Relationships - We can hope that our relationships will become what we want them to be, yet just hoping for change without communicating it rarely ever incites change and connection.
- Business - If you keep hoping that "one day my ship will come in" or that client will land in your lap, it's not going to happen. It's the tiny steps you take each day to make your business grow to where you want it to be (we're going to be diving even more into this in the next few episodes)
It's not just about our bucket list dreams, but also about relationships, or business. When do you dream, and when do you move forward?
Tips to get you out of Feeling Stuck
So what can we do to get out of our rut? How can we push ourselves in a way that doesn't just fill us with dread and overwhelm?
Sometimes we need to borrow someone else's confidence until we can find our own.
Your Weekly Challenge:
What is your struggle that is leaving you feeling stuck?
Is where you are a place you want to be at or remain in? How are you going to move forward so three years from now you are thrilled with where you are?
The more we recognize those personality styles and those strengths and what triggers us, the more we can come back to how the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us.